This video does have some graphic language so it is NSFW (Not Safe For Work). In this video, we see the impact of growing up in a single parent household.
“a private online community since 1995”
by Jausan | © 2014 All Rights Reserved
Santa Clarita, California
I have been rather reserved about my comments about Don Sterling (Clippers Owner). Yes, it was insensitive for him to make those alleged comments. However, I think it was equally wrong for his mistress to use public embarrassment to resolve a private matter. Let’s face it, had she not been going through legal issue with him and his wife, no one would have cared. It is understandable that he may have views and so do we when it comes to certain preferences even though we would like to assume that life is all politically correct.
However, in this instance, she exploited this opportunity along with African-American sentiments to get back at him more so than anything else about us. I am sure she has heard other things before this tape-recorded incident and chose not to go to the public about it. However, when things are not in a person;s favor, there is no telling how low a person will go to hurt another. Was she outraged when he bought her the Bentley, Ferrari and Range Rover? Probably not. It amazes me when minorities become rich (temporary wealth), they are not so impacted by the nature of beast of racism. It still exist in the hearts of some people, but not as it did when laws were in place to ensure the racial divide. I do not condone his remarks in any way, but just think about the people you despise each day and how you manage to tolerate them long enough to get your pay-check and cash it.
I am less offended about what he said, because he would say it whether public or private and he is under no moral obligation to anyone to modify his behavior. However, I am more offended by the mistress trying to create a call-to-action because things did not go her way. All of the African-American leaders condemned the man. Think about it for a moment, he is in his 80’s and respectfully what is she doing with him in the first-place? He is well past her senior, married, wealthy, and has her as his souvenir and fantasy. There is no doubt he has views about African-Americans and other minorities and even though we may not life them, many have died for the right for him to speak despite his 18th Century mindset.
This is a learning tool not just for minority females, but females in general, no matter how wealthy a man is, money will not change his sentiments and beliefs. She took a risk on playing a high-stakes game and in the end lost as the wife prepares to sue her. The most tragic element to this whole thing is that despite all of the comments and trashing, there will be people supporting the franchise. So in retrospect the price was very high for her to pay for the life of luxury, her personal dignity. The short-cut to wealth by sleeping with a guy for his bucks is what guys like Sterling look-out for and understand that the few coins that he shells out to her is marginal to what the wife gets in return.
At best this is a glorified form of prostitution that ended badly and the race-card is the only weapon she had left to fight-back with in the end. Even if he is racist, the man is 80 something years old and what power does he have over you? Nothing, the players can be traded to other teams or serve-out the terms of their contracts if so desired. Minorities to him may be a necessary evil from his perspective and therefore he exploits them for profit. However, one thing to keep in mind is that even though all of this comes out now, and African-American general manager by the name of Elgin Baylor worked for the Clippers for almost 30 years.
So before allowing this woman to have a nation serve her agenda, we need to be objective and look at the motivations for it. This is not a racially motivated situation, but one that exploits racism to hurt Don Sterling in his pocket and through his reputation. Again, in now way are his alleged remarks acceptable, but is also not acceptable for a grown woman to use a dispute to garner public favor either.
It should be noted that Elgin Baylor is suing Don Sterling for being terminated in 2009 based on age and racial discrimination. As you can see despite the racial over-tones,an extramarital affair leads to this sort of racial tension.
you have to see this then you have to follow me on twitter… this woman on youtube says that black women are sought after and cherished by white men but why does she want to prove this ?
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“a private online community since 1995”
by Jausan | © 2014 All Rights Reserved
Santa Clarita, California
I have received a considerable amount of email from African-American women complaining about not being able to find a good black man. I knew the answer to this issue immediately so instead of responding to multiple emails, I decided to make this post. Here is the deal ladies, there are a lot of African-American men that are still carrying a silent anger toward African-American women that does not equate to the hatred of a racist as in the history of America, but something a bit more subtle. The guys that were dissed as far back as in elementary school in some cases carry this disposition into their adult lives, especially if they are treated the same by the females within the house-hold.
I have also heard from African-American women with this same disposition toward black men, but in many cases it involved some sort of abuse beyond verbal abuse. However, in the case of men, the abuse was far more verbal. This topic is rarely spoken about until I receive emails from black women complaining about the who no good black men argument. The reason that many of these guys date women of other races that have had bad experiences with African-American women is a way of protecting themselves and the feelings of black women. So many times black women wonder why Caucasian, Asian, or Latin women are treated better by black men than they would treat an African-American woman. In the minds of some men they honestly believe that other women are more deserving than African-American women. This is a very hard pill to swallow for many African-American women. However there are many African-American women that hold the same sentiments toward black men as well treating men of other ethnicities better based on race.
The distinction is that in the case of African-American men and women it is more of a disconnect based on experiences more so than stereo-types related to texture of hair, color of eyes and skin. This disconnect is based on the perceived betrayal of those within their own ethnic group. The problem for most has to do with the application of external stereo-typical and racial demoralizing comments that are applied to people within their own ethnic group. It should also be noted that this occurs in every ethnic group throughout the world because it is based on the way people treat each other within the same group.
The angry mother that talks to her young impressionable son or daughter about how worthless his or her father is may have a lasting impact. Whether it is true or not, the fact remains that the child was exposed to this disposition and therefore could have a lasting impact. Now, if these people grow up with a continuing trend f failures that do not counter the initial impressions, you will see what we see today. In some cases these people will actually accept exploitation by other groups based on stereo-types and would not consider being degraded in such a way by their own.
The bottom line is that at some point these people were rejected in some way by members of their own ethnic group and personalized it to a point to avoid a dependency and interaction within their own group. I know of at least 200 African-American males that do not date, or even consider African-American women. Also, I am familiar with several hundred women who do not and would not consider African-American men in their own ethnic group for dating, romance, and love. Once again, this is found in all ethnicities, but the problem with African-Americans is due to a 600,000 person gap according to the last U.S. Census between men and women. There are far more women than men in the population. However, there are other criteria that must be considered such as income. There are African-American men and women that base their preference to date outside of their own race based on purely economic and social advantages. These individuals are more focused on the earning capacity of individuals and therefore African-Americans as a whole are not known for wealth, but individually entertainers, athletes, and others are distinguished.
So as you can see there are a host of issues that has caused this widening gap. The whole situation regarding ethnic groups when it comes to this issue is based largely on social and economic value in comparison to Western European values for beauty, wealth, status, class, and the like. What this leads to is a stratification of ethnic groups at various levels of acceptance by main-stream society with African-Americans being placed at the bottom rung of the ladder. Therefore, within that group there is stratification based on skin-color )i.e. high-yellow, red-bone), hair texture (Indian hair weaves), eye-color (contact lenses), and even down to the diction and dialect of English or language spoken. Yet there are others within the group that are comfortable with the attributes given them by birth. The reality is that no matter the social value acquired within the specific ethnic group, in comparison to the main-stream they are tolerable, but not acceptable as a norm.
Now this diversion ay be based on past experiences of being teased for being too dark, having nappy hair, or just being called ugly at some point. Due to the African-American physical features the changes are more pronounced and therefore something that brings on more attention also brings on more criticism. No matter what ethnicity you are, the way you treat someone in their younger stages in life may determine their adult life. There are some who blow through the negativity and continue their lives, but there are others that consistently carry that silent anger.