This is an article that people should pay attention to if you are female and unaware of what some women will do under the cover of friendship to steal your man. Guys should take note to understand this process. Ladies, “How many times have you had that one best-friend that you loved dearly, but had some aspects of her personality or character that you had to turn a blind-eye to when among your man or other peers?” The question looks like one that William Falkner would write.
Anyway, there are certain aspects of her personality that you admire and others that are not so appealing. You trusted this person until she tried to move on your man. Now, the question for many women is “How did she do that?” and “Why did she do this?” The answer is pretty simple. Most often than not you have given her the ammunition she needed to ruin your relationship. There are two ways this happens, one is an overt method and the other is the covert method. Yes, ladies if a woman or even your best-friend wants your man, she will try without exception. The Overt Method is when you brag about how great your man is in bed or in the relationship in general. The problem is that some women may view this as a challenge and therefore pursue it as a case of will. What you disclose to these women openly is actively used against you to take your man. Most women try to limit the interactions between their men and their female friends. The obvious problem is that it smacks of insecurity and an astute single or committed female friend with wandering eyes may see this as insecurity and therefore knows where the vulnerabilities are in the relationship. In essence she does not trust her female friends around her relationship. However, most women are respectful and honor this protocol. But those that think otherwise will use the information disclosed as a means to appeal to her best-friend’s partner without saying a word.
These women use the overt mistake of her best-friend’s bragging to allow the partner to come to her voluntarily so that she cannot be directly blamed for the act. The Overt Method is what we most commonly see on Jerry Springer when there is confrontation and drama. This approach is more abrasive and is commonly used to humiliate her best-friend. Most often this comes from out of the blue with little explanation. The difference in this method is that the female’s best-friend may openly pursue the partner using an all or nothing strategy. This situation usually implies that the friendship was a Trojan Horse to get next to her relationship. The common result of this practice is to openly point-out her best-friend’s weaknesses, failures, unmentioned embarrassing situations, and become more of an advocate for him to make her the adversary. Now, it should be noted that this strategy is only used to destroy and nothing less than that. This behavior can be expected in cases of perceived betrayal, being ignored, or over-looked for attention by the best-friend. “Yes” women do this to avoid being lonely or without their best-friend.
Guys should be especially careful in this regard because in both methods it is essential for you to play a part for this scheme to actually work. You may want to establish up front that your relationship is private and therefore the girlfriends do not need to know the specifics of it no matter how mad, sad, or glad she may become during the relationship. When this is done and the woman abides by these terms, but breeches them gives the man the potential incentive to go forward with the best-friend’s agenda if provided through flirting etc. However, a stand-up guy would leave the relationship if she insists on sharing, because it may eventually lead to one of her friends making a move. This may be hard for many men to turn down in that she will probably have more information about what not to do to keep him.