You may read many articles about those shy people afraid of being on the dating scene, but rarely do you hear about people being over-exposed. Yes, over-exposure is a serious problem for many people seeking that special person. More specifically, over-exposure comes about when a person tries too hard to find love through too many avenues i.e. (venues).
You see this when you meet someone on the Internet and find they are signed with every dating service known to man-kind including social media outlets. However, the sad truth is that some of these people actually make it a perpetual life-style choice to remain on the dating scene without any intention of finding Mr. or Mrs. Right. I know many of them that began back in the 1980’s and are still out there for some reason decades later without a break.
For some it is a choice because they may be deficient in the attention department and the singles scene allows them the platform to remain in the thick of excitement. The worst thing that could happen from their perspective is to fall in love and or have a relationship because they view it as a liability. In some ways they are like the entertainers that were popular once before and attempt to remain relevant throughout their lives. Simply put, these are the people that do not know when to sit-down.
There is a thrill or rush for some people to meet someone new every week-end; however over-exposure has a cost. And that cost is being taken for granted by potentially eligible partners. You make know of someone who is a chronic complainer about not finding the right person even though they are on a date every other night and have their profiles plastered on every singles venue. Statistically, people remain on the dating scene for no longer than 60 to 90 days. However, there are those that have been out there for years. And one bad thing about being on so many sites is the saturation factor. In essence, the person eventually goes through the extended singles gene-pool.
There are a finite number of people you can meet through any social gathering or Internet venue so, the probability is that these individuals may run into someone that they have dated or slept with at some point. Once gossip and rumors begin, they are hard to stop. One raw realism from this situation is that they more often than not become sex objects or booty-calls. If they sink to this level the beauty and attitude they once used is now replaced with pitiful desperate acts to keep them relevant.
For this reason there is a demand for Cougars by many younger men due to experience, and fewer inhibitions. This is the demand for the green and blue-veined women to slip on a mini-skirt sans undergarments and hang out with people 10 years or more their junior. However, it should be understood that many cougars are discreet and may be more visible online than on singles scenes.
The one take-away here is that being over-exposed can result in being exploited and taken for granted when you begin to blend in with the environment too well.