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There are a persistent number of women that actually have no intention to marry unlike in the past. In many ways some women view marriage as a burden of sorts. The perception is that not only would another person in their lives is a liability, but also view the reality of being single has more to do with personal independence than anything else. Decades ago when this trend was popular in the 1980’s among men, the perception was that men were being selfish. This trend at the time bucked the tradition of men seeking wives. Now, during the 1990’s the trend was slightly reversed and this could be attributed to the state of he economy at the time.
However,since The Great Recession of 2008 the trend had declined in 2010 according to the United States Census about 50.7%of American men and women are married either with spouse present or absent. Even though the current number of married couples out-number those unmarried means that the popularity of marriage is in decline. There are no solid numbers to comprehend the number of couples that actually divorced or separated due to the crisis. Quantitatively, there are implications that the popularity remaining single among women is becoming more of a reality.
In some ways this may be the first generation of American women that have grown out of the fantasy that has been perpetuated throughout the decades. There are some reasons for this change because more women are independent and due to the economic shift many women are bread-winners. Also, there are a large number of women that are continuing to college and vocational schools to make more money which continues to discourage them from marry a man solely due to economic gain. In some circles women would not consider marriage to anyone unless their partner is a millionaire. Even though that is an extreme measure, the needy financial woman is gradually becoming a thing of the past.
Another result of this trend is the casual nature of sexual relations in that men are taking on a more functional role much like men used to do with women by objectification. “What does this mean?” This will means a totally different family structure and slower population growth within the nuclear family. In fact, as these states wrestle with same-sex marriage legislation, those men and women that use to sustain artificial heterosexual relationships will no longer play a role that impacts the lives of others along with their own.
African-American women is one group hit the hardest with a bubble of single women that have never been married in places like Atlanta, Detroit, New York, and Los Angeles where many of them between their late twenties through their mid-forties. Some are of course following a new trend of dating Caucasian men, however according to many of the informal dating statistics the marital-rate remains considerably lower compared to the marital activity of African-American men with Caucasian women. The reality according to the data from the Census is that there are 600,000 more single African-American women than men in population with at least a bachelor degrees. And there are one million more women within that group actively in the work-force compared to men. This difference is significant because out of all of the groups in the population African-Americans have this imbalance and had it before in 1980. The economic implications are that when a recession occurs as it did in 1980 and 2008, African-American men are seriously impacted by job displacement that not only hits them economically, but also make them far more less desirable to African-American females.
It should be also observed that Caucasians, Asians, and Hispanics (Latinos) are not experiencing similar trends as with African-Americans. There are still women in the dating pipe-line who are bound to traditions that means men must be the bread-winner along with high standards. The problem is that as these women age many of them have the perception that they have the same romantic value as they did when they were younger. In a broad context, they are gravely mistaken when it comes to assessing their romantic value while retaining higher standards for a mate than they themselves can deliver. This is much like the fat woman who expects to land a guy with ripped abs. The problem in these instances is that their personal self-worth is projected on others and they falsely fall under the impression that the same value is perceived and accepted by the other party.
The growing trend now is to expand on freedom and independence first and then look at feeding the emotional aspects in one’s life later while having objectified sex in the interim. This modern single woman in her twenties is more of a realist and less of a fantasy-driven princess. Even though there are some around, the growing number of women are growing up with resources and information to avoid being stuck in bad marriages. The unfortunate aspect is that the women who fail to do this may find themselves in under-performing relationships. In essence, love can cure certain ills in a marriage, but the modern woman of today has more of a macro-view of the relationship and what it takes to sustain them.
Men like myself have used the argument in respect to the benefit of marriage. The reality is that marriage is a liability for men in many cases in that they are responsible for paying a perpetual debt for the wife and children. The advent of the two income household over the past 50 years has now culminated in generations of children understanding that struggling parents are not the ideal representation of living. This is very obvious now as 98% of the United States population makes less than US$250,000. Today many young men and women seek to pursue higher incomes independently. The glamor from reality shows and the like may also play a small part in this desire for independence with many of the shows scrambling to find healthy relationships to represent show franchises.