There are two fundamental terms that singles must become familiar with prior to hitting the dating scene “I’m a little married” and “I’m married but looking”. These two terms are qualifiers for those who are ready to cheat on their partner or spouse. It is about 50/50 when it comes to the gender of the person that will use this pseudo-cute cliché’. The single person needs to keep in mind that by using this qualifier he or she does not feel fully obligated to his or her spouse. This means that there is a good possibility that the marriage serves a less important purpose for him or her. On the other-hand, this also implies that if you are approached by someone using this qualifier, you are not a priority to them either when compared with their own self-interest.
As mentioned in my blogs and articles before, cheating is a selfish act and therefore the individual is more concerned about his or her welfare first and the others fall in line after the fact. These individuals are usually trying to avoid domestic troubles at home from a lack in communications in the marriage or relationship and ready to leave with one foot outside the marriage and the other inside it as a mere place-holder. Rarely do these individuals take meeting a single person on the dating scene seriously. In fact, it is not uncommon for them to disclose their marital status up-front. The rationale behind this is to establish that they are seeking satisfaction for the moment and reveal that they are married as a stop-gap measure to avoid any further pursuit of a relationship. They may take it from flirtation to sexual encounters. This has more to do with power than anything else. Most often these individuals want to see if they still have what it takes to get an outsider to want them. The benefit for him or her is to stroke the ego and to flaunt it in the face of a spouse or partner as leverage in the relationship.
There are some people that do this solely for the purpose of lifting low self-esteem through this form of attention. However, the primary uses of the two terms is to create an incentive for the individual to compete against the spouse or partner at that time for their attention and to feel important.