The Typical Gold-diggers & Jump-offs Playbook

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The Typical Gold-diggers & Jump-offs Playbook
J A U S A N ®
“a private online community since 1995”
by Jausan | © 2014 All Rights Reserved
Santa Clarita, California

The new term for a Gold-digger is a Jump-off or a woman who attaches herself like a leech to a successful man or woman.  Even though some men may do this, it remains frowned upon in the broader sense.  These women fall outside the category of most women because the majority put in the work and make a life for themselves in a way that does not require dressing provocatively or engaging into ass-kissing in the vain of currying favor from men.  In essence, the majority of women work hard and sustain themselves and their families.

However there are those women who deliberate leverage their appearance, body and youth in exchange for a life-style provided by a man or a woman.  The goal is to put forth as little effort in life as possible to reap maximum rewards at someone else’s expense.  The hype associated with an exaggerated life-style of luxury is usually the motivation.  Once these women attach themselves to a woman or man, they do whatever it takes to get the wealth or a portion of it.  The sad thing is that many of these women rarely notice that they are so obvious in their approach and most often are disappointed when they are left with only memories, broke, and out of love.

The most depressing part f the cycle that these women undergo is the fact that age is in deed their enemy.  Age = Relevance in their equation and it looks pathetic at age 40 and up when they are still trying to use such a tactic.  Usually, women may go through the phase and grow out of it while others remains tuck on stupid until they are laughed at about age 70 walking around wearing a micro-mini-skirt around men one-third their age.  They get stuck in an era.  Some usually attempt to have children with these men or even marry them as an anchor to ensure they are associated with the lifestyle.  The strategies may differ because there are some that do this out of seeking financial security while others may do so just to have a child or get married with divorce in mind to get their share of the pie.

The Gold-digger or jump-off is not someone that will hang around  throughout  troubling times unless there is a means to profit or come-up later.  Men are viewed as commodities as some men may view these types of women.  The vagina is the actual tool that is supposed to be used in order to keep the man.

The reason why the majority of these women wind up alone later in life is based largely on the superficial approach they have toward life in general.  The hype is the life-style and the loneliness is the reality, nursing homes are filled with them.  There is also a sense of entitlement that these women have in the sense that the man is supposed to share his wealth. Now, there are several different agendas for these women.  There are only two agendas, their own and sometimes that of their extended family.

There are women that look for men or women in some cases who can not only take care of them, but their other family members.  Even though in some cases there are cultural implications depending on which area of the world they are from and in other cases not so.  One common occurrence is with some of the mail-order brides that may serve as anchor of spport for the rest of the family.  In short, the woman is used by the family to marry or date the guy and use him to support both her and them.

One last note about thee women is many of them are not bad people, but possibly reared in a poor environment, or were stuck with the task of being responsible for the extended family.  Therefore the guy is pimped by all parties.  This happens especially to successful emn with limited interpersonal or social skills.  The woman showing the attention to him may make him feel special in exchange for her being around him and in exchange enhancing his social image among peers i.e. trophy wives.

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Why isn’t my partner changing for me?

Why isn’t my partner changing for me?
J A U S A N ®
“a private online community since 1995”
by Jausan | © 2014 All Rights Reserved
Santa Clarita, California

 

People sometimes go into faulty relationships under the premise of changing a partner into that desired lover.  You have heard women say “I will need to change this or that about him…”  Unbeknownst to many women and men the “change theory” rarely works because this approach is for children and not adults.  The first mistake is to assume that what you desire is indeed what the partner wants.  Change has to be first internalized  by the partner and not the partner seeking the change.  Secondly, it becomes grossly obvious to a man that manipulation is in play.  This marginalizes the effort to change the person to a personal challenge.  As we men know, when challenged the other party becomes a competitor instead of a partner in this sense.

The competitive spirit puts men into a defiant role and ferments their beliefs and positions.  The obvious agenda for some women is to use an ultimatum especially after marriage.  The thought process is that in order for the relationship to function, terms involving change must be implemented.  Some may even try the ultimatum which is the decision of last resort.

Now men may react differently toward these ultimatums in one of the following manners:

  • Genuinely attempt to change and go along with the request.  This is rare, but does happen under the auspices of love.  However, do not be surprised if he devises an ultimatum for his partner.  In the past I have witnessed these arrangement where the female wants her husband to quit doing or start doing things from in the bed-room to the front yard.  However, one thing that I discovered from interviewing couples is how the ultimatum places a void in the relationship.  A passive-aggressive approach is not out of the question when it comes to responses in the sense, “I will comply, but this qualifies me to seek-out someone without the limitations”.
  •  He may flatly refuse the request and find another woman without having anything else to do with the partner.  These are the no-nonsense guys that may have faced too many ultimatums in the past.  Guys with this disposition may actually change in a way that excludes a demanding partner as a viable mate.
  • Another approach is for a guy to passively-aggressively comply with the request will fostering an agenda to flatten the relationship to nothing more than having a sexual partner and roommate.  In short, he will do just enought for the sex and sexual favors with a lesser than authentic opinion about the partner or relationship.  He will cope with the situation until a better partner comes along.
  • And yet another strategy is the tit-for-tat-trade-off where the woman is expected to make a compromise in exchange.

The one thing that women should understand about changing a man is that not only does the change has to come from him, but it can also be viewed as a power-grab.  More importantly, it can be viewed as a woman treating him like a child.  Now, in any relationship, ther has to be compromise, but it has to be both voluntary and mutually inspired by both parties.  And the absolute worst thing that woman can do is to use sex as a tool to enforce compliance.  Some valid considerations are that a woman may suggest the correction of things that could benefit her partner, in this case such a concern is  valid in the sense of the best interest of the relationship. However, when it comes to addicitions such as porn, drinking, etc. the partner is not a proessional and would be best suited to face the problem with a licensed professional instead of an ultimatum.

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